The 7 elements that you should think before marriage

First, let's discuss the purpose of marriage. Marriage is a long-term partnership that begins with love. This partnership can be between two individuals or two families. Without feeling attracted to each other's appearance and physique, it is difficult to establish initial trust. If there is only love and no practical considerations, the relationship may not be managed well. Since marriage requires management, both parties need to have common goals. These goals could include raising two children, helping them grow into mature individuals, and growing old together. Alternatively, the goals could involve supporting each other in their respective careers to achieve success. Unclear or too easy goals, or unstable goals, can all lead to a relationship not lasting.

• Time reveals a person's true nature. It takes at least a year to have a preliminary understanding of the other person's character. Therefore, during the first year, do not let love cloud your judgment and rush into marriage.
• Wait until both you and your partner are mentally mature before getting married. One measure of this maturity is the ability to take care of yourself independently and not suffer from social anxiety. This includes getting along well with colleagues and superiors, handling social interactions with friends and relatives, renting your own place, traveling alone, and going to the hospital by yourself when needed.
• Having good life skills is a significant advantage for a marriage! Don't think that because modern life provides material abundance, you can buy everything you need. Sometimes, being able to handle things yourself or having your partner help you can greatly improve efficiency in terms of time, energy, and money.
• Compatibility in social background and family background is important. This ensures that both parties have similar values and approaches to handling things. I have seen several childhood sweethearts around me who have successful marriages, with their parents also getting along well.
• Rushing into marriage during a financially unstable period can lead to various problems. So, wait until either you or both partners have a stable career before getting married.
• The decision to have children should be made early or after achieving career stability. These two points are somewhat contradictory. It's essential to strike a balance. Raising children requires a lot of physical and mental energy, so it's better to do it while young when you have the energy and it won't significantly affect your work efficiency. After the age of 35, staying up late with a child and then having to deal with important work matters can be overwhelming.
• Nobody is perfect, and no personality is perfect. There are only people and personalities suitable for specific situations. Different people excel at handling different kinds of things.